I always knew I had a purpose in life, but it took me 30 years to fulfill it!
Hi, I’m Victoria!
Ever since I was a kid, I felt this deep, knowing that I was meant for something more. That I had a higher purpose in life, except there was one problem – I had no idea what my purpose truly was. Figuring it out was all I ever wanted!
I knew at its core, my purpose was always about working for myself. And I wanted to help others in some way. But how? And with what?
As strong as my sense of purpose was in being self-employed and supporting others, I felt that I was just drifting through life. I was floating along passively and waiting…Waiting for something to happen, so that my life would finally start.
I’m not even sure what I was waiting for, but something HAD to happen at some point, so I could start living my ‘real’ life where I knew what my purpose was and was following my dream!
I got glimpses of it every now and again… Like when I started meditating regularly, read about spirituality, started doing Reiki and journaled about different aspects of life. Writing has always been a strong passion of mine and when I write, I have this deep sense that I am connecting with something real and profound in my soul, but for years I didn’t really understand it.
I went back and forth between searching for my purpose, and merely going along with my day to day life. I had different jobs, started new things, and never finished anything. Every now and then I would break free from what was expected of me and joined a personal development course or randomly started something new just because I felt like it!
I was searching for my purpose…My purpose that I felt I hadn’t a clue what was, but I knew I HAD to find and fulfil it.
So why did it take me so long?
After a while of doing something fun and fulfilling and different, I would always go back to the ‘real’ world. I’d get a ‘proper’ job and try, once again, to fit in and get a ‘real’ degree that I could actually use in the world to become a version of something I was conditioned to think was successful.
The thing is, as much as I knew that my deepest desire was to find and live out my purpose, I also knew that my deepest fear was to never find it.
What I feared, even more, was finding it and not being able to fulfil it! I felt that I would rather live an ordinary life than fail at living out my life’s purpose.
The unknown scared me so much more than my slightly dull, but ultimately ok, status quo. I got comfortable, I got distracted, I forgot about this purpose again and again…
until i decided to become a life coach
In the middle of the 2008 recession I received a blessing in disguise; I got let go from my job! It didn’t exactly feel like a blessing but, I thought “I’ve got nothing to lose” so I enrolled in a life coaching program. And it was life changing!
For the first time in years – maybe ever – I felt that I had found something that I was good at and something that felt SO right! Could this really be it?? Could this be my life’s purpose?
I decided to put it to the test and started working for myself! And yes, in many ways, it was more fulfilling than anything I had ever done before! But I also hadn’t a clue what I was doing, a part of me was still playing small and didn’t believe in it and, less than 2 years in, I had to get a full-time job to pay the bills. Though I tried to keep it going, I eventually let the coaching slide.
And I got comfortable again…In my steady, well-paid job…2 years passed… And another one and then I felt the calling once again. I knew this wasn’t my place! I knew I was meant for something more but what?? And how??
The fear of starting something new and “failing” again was terrifying…
But eventually I decided that enough was enough – I quit my job!
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment”
And this time it was different…
I took time to go soul searching for awhile. I took time to reconnect with myself, my intuition, my dreams. I went traveling to visit friends and family and I worked on myself. For the first time in my life, I started to really take control. Not in a rigid way, but in the way of beginning to truly love and accept myself. In the way of beginning to really trust and believe in myself. In the way of beginning to be the real authentic me.
And I finally realised that I already knew what my purpose was…
It had been staring at me my whole life!
I’m now working for myself, empowering female entrepreneurs to live their best lives, and I just started writing my first book! (Stay tuned!)
And do you know what I also discovered?
I discovered that yes, we all have a purpose in life, and that purpose is to embrace our authentic selves. It is to use the gifts and the talents that we have to create success that really matters to us. THAT is why we were put here on earth; to be exactly who we are.
And do you know what else?
It’s not as hard as you think… the unknown can feel scary, but when you start choosing to be your authentic self when you start doing the things you love and are good at, when you begin fulfilling your life’s purpose – it is incredibly easy. It is supposed to be easy!
It doesn’t mean that you won’t be challenged on the way or that you won’t have setbacks – that’s part of the journey! But fulfilling your life’s purpose is easy. Simply because it is what you are meant to do. It is what you were born to do.
And, by embracing that purpose, by embracing your authentic self, you also realise that this means you are enough just as you are.
It means that you no longer need to push, fight, struggle, or try to be someone else.
You simply need to be yourself. That is how we create real success that matters to us.
So you see, everything that has happened in my life has brought me to this moment!
I have built a business that works for me – my uniqueness, my quirkiness, my personality. Where I get to travel when I want because all my work is online (except when the world gets hit by a pandemic, of course!)! Where I get to ‘show up’ in my business in a way that I love and where I get to be myself rather than trying to fit in. Where I get to make my own decisions, based on what I need and what I want. Where I get to be my authentic self.
And – all the while – I get to help other beautiful, courageous, creative, intuitive, passionate women create the success that they desire! This is my life’s purpose!
– Victoria xx
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