One of my pet peeves is when a coach/counsellor/healer talks about “fixing” their clients or gives them a “diagnosis.”
For example, when you post a question in a Facebook group looking for guidance and someone tells you that what you have suggested is never going to work but that their “secret” formula/program is the ‘right’ way to do it.
In my ears, this indicates the person is sick, that there is something wrong with the person that they are “broken”. But you are not broken, and you don’t need fixing. There is nothing wrong with you.
If you need “fixing” it indicates that there is something fundamentally wrong with you and therefore, need an external solution. I think this comes from our modern problem-solving world. We love having a problem to solve and find a solution to! It gives us a sense of gratification and satisfaction! But this doesn’t always work with human beings.
Partly because we are complex and intricate. We can’t just be solved with the perfect solution.
If we are feeling sad, upset, angry, out of sorts, it doesn’t mean that we are broken. These emotions are a natural part of life.
If we feel like we are not living the life we want, it doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with us. It just means we haven’t found our way, yet.
If we are feeling stuck and can’t move forward, it doesn’t mean that we are not good enough. It merely means we need some help in getting unstuck.
We don’t need ‘fixing’.
Instead, we need healing.
Not because we are broken, but because we have lost our way and got disconnected.
Fixing suggests that we need an external expert to analyse us and give us a solution to our problem. But the answers that we seek are inside of us, and we can’t explain our way to them. We need to feel them, we need to see them, we need to hear them.
When you come to me as a client, I don’t see you as broken. I see you as a beautiful, soulful, creative female entrepreneur who needs support in reconnecting with herself, her intuition and her purpose. Not because you are wrong or stupid. But because it can be easy to get distracted and lose your focus.
I am here to hold space for you and your intentions. I am here to remind you why you started and what your purpose is. I am here to keep you accountable when you feel like you are going off track. I am here to empower you to find your unique path to the success that you desire. I am here as a sounding board when you feel stuck. I am here to help heal the parts of you that feel scared and doubtful. I am here to help you let go of what no longer serves you. I am here to remind you of your full potential.
If someone makes you feel like you are broken and wrong, then it’s simply not the right place to grow from! If your coach and healer see you as a project to fix, then they don’t fully see YOU. They might even be afraid of your potential.
But I am not. I see you as you are, in all your glory and it makes me so happy!
I see you at your core, and I am so delighted for you.
I feel your power grow day by day, and I am thrilled that you can share your gifts with the world.
I see the bright shining life emanating from your heart, and your soul and I’m not afraid of it or feel that anything needs to be ‘fixed’ or ‘diagnosed’ – I see you as you are, and it’s my mission in life to help you embrace and love who you are too.
Because it’s my belief and experience that that is what you need; to be seen, heard and loved by yourself. If you saw yourself through my eyes, you would no longer be afraid, you would no longer be doubtful about your next step, and you would no longer worry about doing the ‘right’ thing.
You would know that what you do and who you are is already right. It’s already enough.
You are enough, beautiful.
The fact that you’re not quite yet living your best life doesn’t change that.
You don’t need a doctor, an external expert or standardised roadmap to success.
You need to embrace and love your own wisdom and guidance.
And I am here to support you on that journey.
I am here to hold that space for you where you can be seen, heard and healed.
Where you can come to see that you are already truly enough.
That you already have all that you need to create the success that you desire.