Being introvert and a highly sensitive person, I will be the first to say that I can be quite sensitive towards other people and their opinions of me. It is something I have had to work on a lot, especially since I started working for myself and started putting myself out there on social media.
Not to be negative but, I believe that it is impossible to NOT experience trolls and negative comments when using social media, and especially if you are pushing boundaries, living wholeheartedly and being your authentic self. Why? Because there will always be someone who doesn’t like what you do. There will always be someone who doesn’t GET what you do. There will always be someone that thinks you are doing it ‘wrong’. There will always be someone that doesn’t like you.
I know it’s not nice to hear but, in my opinion, that’s just life.
Does that mean that we should all just hide away and never pursue our dreams, in fear of getting hurt??
But it does mean that we can be aware of it, prepared for it and – not worry about it too much.
I used to take every little negative comment personal and it could upset me for a long time.
But now I know that it’s just part of the game, it’s really nothing to do with me, and my time and energy is way too precious to spend on that stuff.
So, it’s not that it doesn’t affect me at all. It’s totally ok and normal to feel angry, upset, sad about negativity but I don’t let it consume me. Because I know that it has nothing to do with me. People writing negative stuff about other people have issues. Sorry if that seems harsh, but I have found that to be true. Spoiler alert: We ALL have issues, but some of us are working on ours, and others aren’t. The ones that aren’t really are usually the ones that get triggered and stuck up about other people’s success and progress, and then decide to ‘show those people a lesson’ by being nasty to them on social media.
So, I know now, that it has really nothing to do with me. So I don’t take it to heart.
Though, I might rant about it for a bit to a friend, to let it out, and then I let it go. Forgive them and let it go – it’s not worth it for me to hold on to that negative energy! I am busy living the life I want and embracing my authentic self!
And that’s really the key here, for me; I have done so much personal development work and I have started to really, deeply and completely, started to love and accept myself, and embrace my authentic self. So I know, that whatever those people say or write or do – I am enough. They are just clearly not my kind of people! And so I don’t really engage with them. I am not trying to please EVERYbody, because I know that trying to do that, is a recipe for disaster! I am simply trying to be my best self, live the life that I love, and help the people who like me and want to work with me, achieve their happy life. I don’t need to get everybody onboard. Just the ones that are the right people for me.
So please, don’t let it bog you down!
Rant, yell, punch a pillow – do whatever you need to get it out of your system – and then forgive them and let it go!
There are people out there waiting to connect with you, to work with you, to love you – people who absolutely adore you for who you are! People who absolutely love how you do things! People who are thrilled to work with you and/or spend time with you!
Wouldn’t you rather spend your energy finding those people and spend your energy on them?
I know I would.
Is there someone or something that you can forgive and let go of today, to free up your energy for something better?
Use the simple Ho’oponopono mantra;
Think about the person or situation. Feel the emotions in your body.
And then say: I forgive you, I love you, I am sorry, thank you.
Don’t think too much about it, just try it.
You may want to say it a few times. My secret number seems to be 3, so I usually say it 3 times, but there is no right or wrong here.
Then take a deep breath and let it go.
Before you move on, ask yourself if you need to forgive yourself too.
Perhaps you had a part in the tension with this person or situation.
Perhaps you need to forgive yourself for the part you played in it.
Focus on yourself and this situation or feeling.
I sometimes imagine myself standing across from myself and looking at myself in that situation.
And then say (to yourself): I forgive you, I love you, I am sorry, thank you.
Take a deep breath and let it go.
Some things will take more ’rounds’ of this but the intention to let it go, and to start letting it go, is really key. If you are struggle with the intention and thinking ‘why should I forgive and let go??’ then check out my blog post here.
Notice how you feel and then move on with your glorious beautiful life.
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