I was reading about the Hawaiian healing method of Ho’oponopono last night, and it also asked this: Do you want to be right, or do you want to be happy?
For me, it’s not so much about putting up with totally incorrect information, when you know better, for instance, but it is about choosing your fights. Sometimes relationships come to a point where the small things take over. Where we argue over who did what or who remembered what correctly, or that lovely phrase “I told you so!”. We can become so caught up in these little details of bitterness and anger.
What if we were able to let go of the need to be ‘right’ all the time?
The old Hawaiian people had a practice about ‘being pono’, meaning to feel ‘right’ with others, yourself and the world. But not in the above way of feeling that you are right in a fight! Oh no – their being ‘right’ was about being in harmony with others, yourself and the world. It was about having respect for others, having self-respect and having respect for the world you live in. It was about feeling connected to others, yourself and the world. It was about feeling happy, at ease and at peace. It was about feeling balanced in life.
And this was not something that you could just choose to be or not, this was actually a requirement! If you were not ‘pono’ then there was something not right with you! Literally! And it was serious!
How did they become ‘pono’? By using the old healing technique of Ho’oponopono. ‘Ho’o’ means ‘to make’, so Ho’oponopono was to ‘make right’.
It wasn’t just about tolerating others, it was about fully accepting and respecting others.
It wasn’t just about feeling ok about yourself, it was about fully and deeply loving and accepting yourself.
It wasn’t just about being fine in the world, it was about respecting and honouring the world around you.
I don’t know about you but it sounds pretty nice to me.
The Ho’oponopono healing method can sound simple, but it can be life changing. It is, at its purest, a method of forgiveness and letting go. You can use it for people that you hold a grudge against and people who have ‘wronged’ you, but also for people that you love, because it can help deepen that relationship.
The practice is simple; you think about the person/situation you want to forgive and let go of, you let the emotions fill your body, and you say: “I forgive you, I love you, I’m sorry, thank you.” Breathe and see how you feel. Some situations may require repetition of the phrase.
It’s simple but – the importance is not just the words you say, the importance is really your intention. Are you really ready and willing to forgive and let go?
Ask yourself; would I rather be right or happy? I know what I would choose.
If you are having a hard time with your intention to let go – read my blog post here for some inspiration.