I think it is so important to have the courage to be yourself. And to fully embrace your authentic self.
Because I believe that we were all put here on earth for a reason, and each and every one of us is different, unique, exactly for that reason. We all have our role, our part to play, that only we can do – because of who we are. So, having the courage to be yourself and, be the best version of yourself, is crucial. Not just for you, but for all of us. Fully embracing your authentic self is, in my opinion, the best feeling ever. Being able to simply be who you are, who you were meant to be, is such a relief and such a joy. But it takes courage, it takes time, and it takes commitment and dedication.
As Ralph Waldo Emerson said; “To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”
Embracing your authentic self, also means embracing some of those aspects that you might consider “weaknesses” or “flaws” and that you aren’t initially super proud of. It doesn’t mean that we can’t change and improve and become our best self, but it starts by fully embracing who we really are – “flaws” and all. And that can be hard, because we fear judgement and criticism from others – but we are just as ‘bad’ at judging and criticising ourselves! So start at home; stop being so hard on yourself. Stop putting yourself down. Embrace, love and accept yourself as you are – in doing that, we can fully become and be the person that we were meant to be.
It starts by getting to know ourselves. Taking time out to actually spend time with ourselves, which can seem hard and ‘egoistic’, but it’s really not. Getting to know yourself is the first step in embracing yourself, it’s the first step in improving yourself as well, it’s the first step in becoming your true self and it’s the first step in creating and living the life you want. How can you creating and live the life you want if you don’t know who you are and what you want? And then, how can you create and live the life you want if you don’t fully embrace yourself and love and accept yourself?
It’s a process. Over the last couple of years, I have finally embraced the fact that I am introvert – even though I was initially fearful about what others might think about that. I pushed myself, throughout my life, to be more sociable, more outgoing, more “normal”, in order to fit in. But the fact is that I am introvert, meaning that I totally can be all of those things above, but that I really need a lot of time to myself in order to re-charge and recover from social events, for instance. It means that I have certain quirks that influence how I work best, how I communicate best and how I interact best with others. Learning all this about myself has been incredible, because it has allowed me to take better care of myself, and also to better contribute at my job and interact with my colleagues, because I was able to ask for what I needed in order to best function. It has been a win-win all around. Being my true self, being honest and open about it, fully embracing it has just made life so much easier.
Much more recently, I have been working on fully embracing another aspect of myself. I know that I have always been quite sensitive. Both to feedback from others and, along with the introverted-ness, I have been shy and quiet and have quickly felt overwhelmed in situations and so I tried to withdraw from such situations. Being “sensitive” is definitely not seen as very positive in today’s society and so, just like with the introverted-ness, I have tried to hide it and simply push my way through the discomfort and that is possible! For awhile. But with time, you just get more and more tired and exhausted from pushing.
I have very recently realised that I am not just ‘a little bit sensitive’ and that I can’t simply ‘get over it’ and ‘move on’ etc – I am actually, what is know as, a ‘highly sensitive’ person. Meaning that I am extra sensitive. To a lot of things. Such as bright light and loud noises – I was in the cinema recently and felt that it was soo intense and almost too much for me. I am extra sensitive to a lot of input so I get quickly overwhelmed when a lot of things are happening, such as events with many people. I am also sensitive to other people’s emotions and moods, meaning that I can pick up on other people’s energy very easily and it can affect me a lot, which is something that I need to be aware of. And that’s where the ‘knowing myself’ is so so important. Because if I wasn’t aware of the fact that I pick up on other people’s energy, then I could often get confused about what’s going on. I have had to learn to distinguish between what is my energy and my emotions, and what doesn’t belong to me. Throughout my life, my boundaries have been quite weak because of me not fully understanding this. I have been overwhelmed by other people’s emotions. Over the last few years, I have developed much healthier boundaries, where I am clear on who I am, and can feel where others are, but without it overwhelming me.
So, whereas being highly sensitive can sound negative – which is why I have unconsciously been hiding it and denying it – it is actually also my superpower! Because it also means that I am very much in touch with my intuition, and the fact that I can read people’s energy so clearly, is something that I use in my work all the time to help women dig deep into their emotions, their fears, their blocks, and find healing and transformation. I am able to help them with that because I am highly sensitive.
Fully embracing this part of me has been a bit scary, and I have been fighting it a lot. I have been worried about talking to my family and friends about it, because they might think me “weak”. I have been thinking myself that maybe I could just ‘get over it’ because being highly sensitive can be intense, and do I really want to be that? Does that mean that there are things I can’t fully do anymore? Like – go to a loud rock concert or watch a thriller in the cinema?? But then, when I stopped to think about it I realised that I am already accommodating myself so much better around this. I have actually never enjoyed thrillers/horror movies and I actively avoid watching things that are very violent and intense. I do love full-on loud concerts, but I choose what I go to, and therefore I can much better manage my energy around it. This might sound like I am scared and simply ‘staying within my comfort zone’ but it’s actually not that. I know where my comfort zone is, and I often move outside of it, but only with things that truly matters. Not just in order to overwhelm or overpower my senses, such as watching a horror movie would. I choose my moments. And I look after myself.
But there you have it; I am now fully embracing the fact that I am a highly sensitive person, and I am proud of it! I am still figuring out exactly what it means for me, and how it impacts me, because I have been in denial about it for so long – all of my life! – so I am still getting aquatinted with it. But, there is no doubt in my mind, that this is one of my superpowers and to not embrace it would just be plain silly! And selfish too! Because I know that there are so many women that I am destined to help, and have already helped, and they need my special mix of superpowers.
Do you know who you are?
Have you embraced yourself fully?
It’s a journey for sure…Probably never-ending! But you can start right now, today.
I love using the Myers-Briggs personality types, you can take the test here; https://www.16personalities.com/
It’s not the be-all and end-all, in terms of getting to know yourself, but I have always found it very accurate and a great way to start. Give it a go if you haven’t already!
I am an INFJ! What’s your personality type? 💕
It’s my mission in Life to inspire and empower women like you to fully embrace their authentic self! So that You can create and live the life that you want.